Well, this was fun wasn’t it? My last weekend turned out to be a surprise birthday party for me from my friends here in Singapore. I truly feel the love.
As my flight approaches (approximately 7 hours from the time I’m writing this blog post), I keep thinking about goals. Questions as you wrap up any journey are, “Did I do everything I wanted to do?,” “Did I make it?,” “Was I successful here?”
It’s only natural to rate anything we do as a pass or fail mark. Thumbs up or thumbs down. We rate ourselves based on what we’ve reached “so far.”
My anxiety creeped up on me as I realized that, while there was a lot that I did accomplish, a few things still weren’t fulfilled. I was uneasy and worried.
But luckily, my boyfriend opened my eyes to the bigger picture.
He told me that one can’t keep thinking in extremes. Often times, we are pressured to “make it,” or to be at the top right away. “People always seem to value being a huge success more than looking at their progress,” he said.
He was right.
Sometimes we think that because we haven’t reached our goals yet, we label ourselves as failures.
But the truth is, there is value in looking at the progress you make over time.
Labelling ourselves as failures while we are still on the path, discourages us from keeping on. Right now, I am nowhere where I really want to be, but at least I am not where I used to be.
I look back the past few years, and I feel a sense of fulfilment at how I grew personally. There is courage that wasn’t there before, character that strengthened over time, and new experiences that added color to my life.
But, there is still SO MUCH I want to do…
And while I am still on the path, I look at the progress I made from yesterday, and the day before, and the week before, and the years before.
And I know at least, I am on the right path. It’s progress, not perfection.
Your mom and I are loking at a guyabano project and because of our ages, me 64 yrs old, I can’t hep think of the extremes..who will continue this when I am not able physically to attend to it ..and none of my sons are interested, being busy with their own work and lifestyles. But your mom says, this will be a forever business and it will be successful. Your mom is a lucky business woman,..how I wish, I were in Manila to work together with her…we really have to look at the progress.. Tito Joseling